Archive for July, 2012

July 12, 2012

Detoxing The Delinquents

This week, I did a serious detox cleansing. Not the kind of detox cleansing that requires gadgets and liquids in places that they don’t belong, nor necessarily a detox that void me of my favorite foods or drinks. This week, I did a serious detox cleansing of the people I surround myself with, by observing and valuing the important people in my life, and ‘deleting’ those who bring me down. (Yes..this may, or may not, have resulted in an ambush frenzy of deleting many unwanted friends on Facebook).

While I admit, I do tend to have spontaneous and sometimes irrational behaviors occasionally – this people detoxing was by no means an illogical or a haphazard decision.  A very close friend of mine and her family had been hurt by the words and actions of others, some people that they know, and some who are total strangers. My friend and her husband are two of the friendliest, kind-hearted, positive and nurturing people on this planet, who happen to be in the spotlight from time to time. They treat people exactly how they would want to be treated. Yet, even if it was for one silly moment, the cruel insults coming from strangers on the internet caused hurt, frustration and negativity. Life is way too short to waste your breath on criticizing and ridiculing others.  Luckily, they are strong and understanding enough not to take it to heart, which inspired me to inspire others with their story.

Words will never describe how much I want you two peas in a pod to know that you are undeserving of any criticism or ugly thoughts, and that I love you both to death!

I believe in forgiveness. I believe that most people are good. I also believe that to be the best person you can be, you need to surround yourself with people that make you happy, inspire you, motivate you, and lift you up. You should be there for others in times of need, you should be a good listener, and you should always offer good advice if you have it. But you should also lead by example, treat others how you would want to be treated, and surround yourself with the people that make life worthwhile.

The rest of the people, drama, and unconstructiveness needs to go. Detox the deliquents out. You don’t need to be friends with everyone in the world, but you can be nice to them. You don’t need to have a thousand best friends, but treat the couple you have like gold. Find yourself true friendships made from common passions, depth, and laughter.  And if you are fortunate enough to have the greatest foundation and strength of a family like mine, then never let them go.

So I ask you to ask yourself – do you need a deleting people detox of your own, or perhaps you need to detox the way you treat people? I encourage you to surround yourself with the people who support you, love you for you, and lift you higher. (It’s what makes the world go ‘round).