Posts tagged ‘travel’

May 31, 2016

Dear Chianne-Francisco,

Remember when I promised myself that I would still write every day, publish every other week, explore all the time and travel every month?  I never wanted the dreamer in me to die and I always saw myself wanting new adventures every chance I got. It turns out I was wrong. But please don’t be so hard on me.

It’s strange to believe that already two years and eight months have gone by since my move back to Arizona. In that time, some big things have changed in my life: I’ve continued my career to new heights, bought a house and a puppy and I have fallen in love. These are all pretty big things. Pretty really great things.

This past weekend I went back to San Francisco to visit my old stomping grounds and to remember the feeling of being alive, inspired and open minded. Within minutIMG_3253[1]es of being in the city, the excitement and love for places sparked. As I walked, memories would abrupt from every street. Certain coffee shops that used to start or end my day were still there. I passed parks, restaurants, rooftops and stadiums that once took up hours upon hours of my time and accounted for so much of my happiness with friends. The bench at the Palace of Fine Arts, the Golden Gate Bridge, AT&T Park, Marina Green, the Presidio, Ferry Building, Black Heart Tattoo, Epic Church, Yerba Buena, and City Hall are places forever etched on my heart.

The truth is, my current day to day in Arizona is not near as theatrical, jaw dropping, or even exciting. Places and people are more spread out. Weekends are made for fun, not necessarily for during the week. Bedtimes come faster and relaxing is key. I thought I would write every day, but I now know not writing every day doesn’t mean I’m not inspired daily. It certainly doesn’t mean I’m any less happy. I thought I would travel every month but that was before I realized how much I loved my life at home. I thought moving back might mean mundane, but I now know that anything in life can be mundane unless you value it.

San Francisco taught me how to be inspired, appreciate, explore, dream, and love people. My time there brought me closer to God and taught me how to better face challenges. Living in that city was a season in my life that I will always cherish but the main thing I hope to never forget; is the person I can be now no matter where I live, how much I write, how many places I travel, or how many new adventures I take.

I love my new journey filled with new places, hikes, restaurants, spring training, garden and house upgrades, puppy training, boyfriend and family time, pools and sunshine.

Life is nothing but a series of seasons. This letter to me is to remind myself to always appreciate the new seasons. The part of you from previous chapters is always here, and future you can’t wait for you to catch up. The old you turned the now you into a person today who appreciates and longs for different types of happiness. How special is that.

You’re right where you’re supposed to be. Just remember to just, love life.


July 2, 2015

Travel solo, so that …

I’m two months shy of turning twenty-seven, I don’t have a boyfriend, or kids for that matter, my insanely busy season at work just ended, plus I have an addiction to traveling the world. So yes, I understand that my situation may seem somewhat unrelateable to yours, but I’m urging you to see the brilliance of why you should take the time to travel solo.

My recent trip to Europe was mostly spent with friends; I attended a wedding, and in some cities stayed with good friends. But I also wanted to take some time and travel alone just so I could relax away an extremely busy first six months of the year. I spent four days and three nights in a country I didn’t know anyone; simply laying at the beach, running, shopping, eating, praying, and writing. It was magical.

The interesting part is I’ve done quite a bit of traveling alone for work. My previous job had me on the road every other week, so I know what it’s like to be in a new city or stay at a hotel alone. But this was different. I didn’t have the excuse of saying to the server, “Oh I’m just in town for work” as to why I was eating alone in a restaurant. I was alone because I wanted to be.

To say I’m glad I did it does not do justice. I’ve had multiple people, including my boss, tell me that I seemed much different when I got back from my trip. Rejuvenated, recharged, and realigned.

So maybe it isn’t realistic for you to buy a plane ticket to France tomorrow, but I’m urging you to make time for yourself – to get to know yourself. Not just one hour at the gym to release stress (which is still needed in our weekly routines), but an actual long period of time away from home – focused on you, focusing on yourself. It might sound crazy, but I’m telling you it is life changing.

Here are my top six reasons that you should travel solo, so that;

Travel solo so that you suit yourself.
Even the most amazing lazy day at the beach with friends, changes your outlook on how to spend the minutes within that day. It’s part of human nature and makes sense that even a day without plans would be different if you were all by yourself. When you’re alone, you won’t think to wait until someone else is hungry too before going to get food.  Once you get hungry enough, you’re just going to go find food. Traveling alone allows you to really and truly do whatever you want to do that day, because no one else’s plans will be changed based on it. It’s really quite freeing.

Travel solo so that you can hear yourself think.
When we are constantly surrounded by other people, even those we love to be around, there are a lot of distractions and excuses to avoid thinking.  Time alone is spent hearing yourself and recognizing your thoughts about what is happening around you. You won’t have other people’s opinions to pull or push you away from your own thoughts.

Travel solo so that you learn to trust yourself.
You have to rely on yourself to use a map, ask a stranger a question, or decide what the next activity will be. It builds confidence and it also brings out awareness of your gut feeling. You’re responsible for your choices and you will learn to trust yourself in decision making.

Travel solo so that you can feel uncomfortable.
I won’t lie – it at times is awkward to be alone. I had wondered what other people were thinking about me. One day I was at the beach for eight hours, watching big groups of friends or families enjoying each other’s company. I was enjoying myself too, just as much as they were, but I had to get used to it. Being uncomfortable in certain situations will only make you stronger and more adaptable for future situations. Feel comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Travel solo so that you can refresh yourself.
This one may seem like the no brainer, but it honestly is true.  Our every day, hectic schedules that are busy with work, kids, and everything that comes along with it is amazing – but draining. True relaxation and letting go is easier when you are alone. There’s no one to impress or be there for. Just you.

Travel solo so that you’re better for others.
You will only be able to fully love other people, once you love yourself (especially the voluntary or romantic relationships). When you’re alone for three days, you do start to realize what you love about yourself. Perhaps even dig out what you don’t love, and then you can work to fix it. Take the time to put yourself in a better, more confident, independent and appreciative emotional place so that you can be better for the people in your life that you love.

Enjoy some photos from my solo travel portion, and remember to just, love life.